Conversation

a thing that rustles my jimmies is when women engage in consensual, voluntary behavior, and then other people inform them "No, you are being exploited." What, are they children? Can't you respect the choices women make as autonomous humans? Jesus. vanityfair.com/news/2018/01/b

410

Aella

@Aella_Girl

As a woman in tech who used to be in porn, I've recently experienced a lot of the "Oh, you're sexually open then, right?" sort of pressure from powerful men. And EVEN STILL this article feels super disrespectful and shamey to people who actually like alternative lifestyles.

5:45 AM · Jan 3, 2018

Replying to

I salute your stomach, I frankly couldn't bear to read it.

Replying to

"You did porny stuff, therefore you must be easy" or similar BS thinking is pretty horrible.Agency matters,and everyone makes choices. Sometimes they don't have great options and are doing things because it is the best of a limited set of options.

Replying to

Shamey and disrespectful to those who enjoy alternative lifestyles is the cultural default. Isn't that to be expected from vanity fair?

Replying to

The article seemed more intent on focusing on and knocking down powerful men who were exploitative, so much so that it shamed people who do these things consensually

Replying to

Did you get a weird vibe from how they dealt with gay male activity? They wag fingers that it doesn't happen at these events. Yet they skip right past the fact that all male versions of these parties are taking place, but they don't bring scrutiny until they break the age limit.

Replying to

Still, you gotta admit, if you wanna go to an orgy. The one you’d least want to go to is one hosted by techies

Replying to

It’s on point about the tech’s double standards.

Replying to

I'd be really interested in your and

@AlanaMassey

having a conversation about this. You are both savvy, have experience in sex work, but have come to very different conclusions on this based on your recent tweets.