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a thing that rustles my jimmies is when women engage in consensual, voluntary behavior, and then other people inform them "No, you are being exploited." What, are they children? Can't you respect the choices women make as autonomous humans? Jesus. vanityfair.com/news/2018/01/b

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Aella

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Jan 3, 2018

that being said, sometimes men with a lot of power *are* creepy and pressure women into doing things that are *not consensual.* And maybe that happens here. But the key is, *not consensual*. That's why it's bad. The parties themselves are not consent violations, fuck.

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Something Louis C.K. said in his apology was "...when you have power over another person, asking them to look at your dick isn’t a question. It’s a predicament for them." I think maybe you hit the nail on the head when you speak of the pressure to participate in these parties.

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I understand your frustration, but I also have a hard time believing that women who work within these companies participating in orgies where identities are known aren't the bosses and aren't being treated the same way the men are, regardless of their positions. :(

Aella

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@auturgist

sure. But just because I experience discrimination in tech doesn't mean I want to be treated like a child for attending a sex party in tech.

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A child attending a sex party seems way more fucked up