I feel like my ability to explore abnormal gendery feelings is really hindered by the whole "any word can mean anything". If the language is so fluid, I don't know what other people actually 'feel like,' and it hurts my ability to connect my feelings with theirs.
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Language fails people and people fail language... both are fluid and subjective and ultimately imperfect. Your ability to explore ALL feelings are probably hindered by these facts.
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sure, but like.... I would love to go into liberal communities and ask a ton of hard questions about which words mean what, in fine detail, so I can figure out the system and where I fall in it, but they just tend to respond to things with 'Identify as whatever you want'
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Part of what is happening now is people are creating the words they never had before to describe those gendered feelings. It’s an ongoing process, but we do have something where we used to have nothing.
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I'm down with making up new words, but the problem is that there's a big pushback against giving concrete definition to those words, because then you might be able to tell someone "No, you aren't actually that thing you identify as."
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I like that, but the super genderfluidy groups I'm in (for example, a nonbinary group on Facebook) are often not welcoming to questions or attempts to define things, even still when I do it as kindly as possible.
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Yeah, i've been around a few communities like this that all feel similar. Maybe I have to keep looking, there's probably a good one out there!
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Same. Everyone's interpretation of a given label is so different that there is nothing communicated by actually using that label myself. Leads to me shrugging a lot.
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Upon reading this I feel like the sound fresh ginger makes whilst being grated on a microplane.
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Meaning of words is conventional, start defining them when in doubt, that's what a scientist do