I find the amount of 'slut-shamy' feelings I get (towards both myself and others) increases when in the presence of men who view sex as something that makes them more valuable, and decreases when around men who seem to not care.
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It's so hard to pin down, but some men give off this vibe that they want sex with me because it would be validating for them. This vibe can occur regardless if they see me as high status or 'just another number', and regardless of if they're playboys or not.
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When I'm in a culture where sex is validating for men, my subconscious brain screams NO when I see other girls have casual sex, like they're stupid or being duped. I try not to think these thoughts.
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
Is it possible that men that seek sex for status purposes are, by definition, signaling that they are lower status? And you noticing that signaling makes it a turnoff?
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When high status men use status to get laid, and 'getting laid easily' reinforces to them how high status they are, I don't think that makes them low status. It's like how a king commands someone to do something, and they do it, reinforces their kingliness?
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Replying to @Aella_Girl
Ahhh, that's clarifying. So an ungracious display of high status? Like arrogance, but more subtle?
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Replying to @DTLawhon
What part is the ungracious? I don't view high status men 'getting laid easily' as ungracious, just... I guess they use sex as a means to an end (demonstrating kingliness!) and that triggers I think protective feelings in me, not 'ew they're low status.'
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To clarify: Low-status triggers unattraction. "Demonstrating kingliness" triggers protection and slut shamey feelings, but I can still feel very attracted to the person "demonstrating kingliness." Like, "You really turn me on but you'll make me feel used"
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I might make this into one! Thank you for the triggers
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