I find the amount of 'slut-shamy' feelings I get (towards both myself and others) increases when in the presence of men who view sex as something that makes them more valuable, and decreases when around men who seem to not care.
To clarify: Low-status triggers unattraction. "Demonstrating kingliness" triggers protection and slut shamey feelings, but I can still feel very attracted to the person "demonstrating kingliness." Like, "You really turn me on but you'll make me feel used"
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Ahh, that's extremely clarifying, and I'd have to think on that for a while, but perhaps it's a recognition of the power component? As in, "holy shit this person is so powerful they might actually be dangerous." Would explain why attraction still remains but also the unease.
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I think this might be part of it, but not all. I think the problem is 'sex as a means to an end' (kingly points). I think very powerful people who don't do that (are there any of those? Every celebrity i've encountered has done this, but maybe sampling bias)
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This could be a great blog post tbh.
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I might make this into one! Thank you for the triggers
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