The pursued/pursuer narrative when it comes to gendered dating initiation does a great job of minimizing women's efforts re: approachability
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Projecting an image of approachable appeal is not the passive non-activity people tend to frame it as
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If a guy wants to get asked out more frequently he should try putting as much effort into things as frequently approached women do.
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If a valuable quality appears effortless chances are the person displaying that quality is just putting additional effort into seeming so
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A professional dancer is supposed to make what they do look easy and natural. The appearance of Ease is /hard/
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I'd disagree. I think men have to expend far more effort in order to pick up women than women have to expend to get picked up.
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Oh certainly, but I've never seen the guys that complain about never getting approached put in close to the effort girls do
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if it's something they really want they should look at the myriad ways women signal appeal/availability, not sit around n whine
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