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some frame manipulation concepts I find useful: 1) The Painful Update Button - where learning true information is framed as painful, and enduring the pain of facing truth is framed as strength and virtue, such that you start ignoring the warning pain of actual damage.

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2) Finger-Trap Beliefs - beliefs that self-reinforce when you start doubting; e.g. "Satan puts doubts into the minds of those he's tempting." - now when you start to doubt satan's existence, this is framed as *proof* of his existence - we told you it was gonna happen!

2:47 AM · Jan 28, 2023

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3) One-Way Pressure - rerouting inquires to be 'actually about you'; if you ask a question that comes close to something vulnerable, what was *your motivation* for asking that? Any pressure you apply gets boomeranged straight back onto you. Inquiring *makes you vulnerable*

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Jan 28

(i wrote more in depth about this kinda thing here if you want more points aella.substack.com/p/frame-control)

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Frame Control

When I mention my dad’s abuse, I usually mention salient things – physical pain, insults, and controlling behavior. These are “clearly bad” – if I tell that he you often told me I was lazy and would...