i do not like the norm where u drop that the other person is causing distress to you, like it's supposed to be a winning move.
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as an un-nuanced frame: yes sometimes people do things that will distress you and the only thing that necessarily follows is that you are distressed
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I mean, you saying it is supposed to avoid making it happen again (or as frequently), or at least that's the reason it should be said
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Plenty of things that are totally fine to do however much you want will distress or disturb a sizable portion of the population.
Someone proclaiming distress isn't much evidence the other person has done anything wrong or in need of changing.
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Sometimes separation is good but if you care about them, let them know why you need space.
Ghosting people is cruel
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Social media has reeaally increased people's want to over-share. I get it, impressions make us feel good, but it's not always a good look
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It’s only a winning move if there are social norms around caretaking, lack of self responsibility, fear of “negative” feelings
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It is the hijacking of instincts and norms that otherwise protect against antisocial behaviour and aggression to instead work for personal political advantage.
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