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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I often hear women talk about how they live in fear of men, on guard against sexual pursuit, being afraid to walk to their car alone, guarding drinks from drugs etc. - but I don't really feel afraid and haven't had much bad stuff happen to me? Idk why our experiences are diff 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I *have* had some concrete 'men are scary' experiences, but those really don't feel like they generalize. Like, once had a man stalk/chase me home down some deserted alleyways, but that was at 2am in Istanbul. Or a violent client, but that was cause I failed to screen. 2/
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John Yaron
@yaron_john
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@Aella_Girl
You once described something that was pretty obviously rape, probably the same violent client, where you went with it bc you were scared. That seems like an actively bad thing that other women are afraid of and has actually happened to you.
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John Yaron
@yaron_john
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@Aella_Girl
But surely you can allow for a large amount of heterogeneity in how bad it would be. Many women couldn’t do SW, emotionally, your disconnect between sex and other stuff is a outlier by at least an order of 1/10,000 right? Think of the median person
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