just wanna go on a date with a dude where he likes making all the decisions during sex and also the experience of listening to them talk is more interesting than being alone on my computer is that so much to ask
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not to toot my own damn horn but i feel like if im tryin to impress a date im always doin some friggin acrobatic conversation. honing in like a laser on the niche unobserved thing, pulling out the bedazzled intuitive query about their emotional state. and the men just starfish.
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just say something that takes me aback. i want to be slightly scandalized. i want to be shocked you went there. i want to worry what people around us would think if they heard us. i want to feel flushed, like i caught you observing my soul when i wasn't looking
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want u to be one step ahead of me some of the time and exactly in step with me the rest of it. wanna feel like you're evaluating me, undecided if i'm interesting enough for you. wanna feel actual challenge, like every skill i have is observed by someone who's been looking for it
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Being forced to make all the decisions in bed is exhausting. My ex was this way. grossed out by blowjobs, and wanted me 100% completely in charge of everything that was happening at all times during sex.
We were together for almost four years. Our domestic life ruled. Sex? Bleh.
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I want someone for whom making all the decisions is genuinely envigorating. hate the thought of pressuring someone who doesn't enjoy it!
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The best moment of my first date with the missus was saying at the end "You know, for an introvert, you sure do talk a lot."
While I got lucky on the observation, something that pithy seems hard to fake if you have some chemistry
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Men think women want agreeableness, that this kind of thing is best left to conversations with other men. It's unfortunately usually true.
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Disagreeable people with high IQs are popular in romance novels, but IRL it is rare for men to remain that way and still be liked
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So, in summary. You want a man who, on first or second date with you, immediately thinks you're great, is insightful bordering on mind-reading, but also doesn't mind chance of seriously offending you, and is also an obligate dom who decides on all the sex.
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