just wanna go on a date with a dude where he likes making all the decisions during sex and also the experience of listening to them talk is more interesting than being alone on my computer is that so much to ask
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not to toot my own damn horn but i feel like if im tryin to impress a date im always doin some friggin acrobatic conversation. honing in like a laser on the niche unobserved thing, pulling out the bedazzled intuitive query about their emotional state. and the men just starfish.
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just say something that takes me aback. i want to be slightly scandalized. i want to be shocked you went there. i want to worry what people around us would think if they heard us. i want to feel flushed, like i caught you observing my soul when i wasn't looking
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want u to be one step ahead of me some of the time and exactly in step with me the rest of it. wanna feel like you're evaluating me, undecided if i'm interesting enough for you. wanna feel actual challenge, like every skill i have is observed by someone who's been looking for it
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It’s disappointing how bad ppl are at just being *curious*
Deep down everyone has a freakshow part of their personality that is ABSOLUTELY FASCINATING
If you care to find it
Instead most sit there, chew their food and ask you “what shows are you watching” 🤢
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That's all unnecessary. Just talk about yourself, your hobbies, favorite foods, pet peeves.
If you were on date w/ an Indian guy you could also discuss if you want to have kids and where you want to settle down.
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Unfortunately I feel like this isn't a specifically gendered issue. All of my dates (except the one that resulted in a two year relationship) have involved carrying anything that had semblance of a conversation. Much less trying to dissect ideas of how things are.
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they can probably smell the feces on your breath. from all the poops you eat. try reassuring them it’s not weird since it’s your own. let us know how it goes.
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The concept of conversational starfishing is.. actually a pretty cool analogy, thanks. That’ll stick in my active thought vocabulary bank for a while