My understanding of nonbinary is it, in practice, most commonly means "person for whom it is very important that others do not assume they share the stereotypical traits of their sex"
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there are some like this, but for me it just means that I don't really fit neatly into either binary gender category when I'm expressing myself authentically
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That’s totally fair for you to feel that way and not consider yourself non binary!
Also totally fair for someone with your same experiences to call themselves non binary!
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right, but if a label doesn't correspond to something then it's useless! Why do I not call myself nonbinary but other people do? it's because something about us is different, and it's not any of the traits listed where me and them are the same
If we use your experiential definition from the first Tweet, isn't the difference just that it's trivial to you that people assume you have stereotypically feminine traits? If we take a step back, you can apply that to all gender identification more broadly.
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yes, to me I don't mind that ppl assume I have stereotypically feminine traits at first glance, this is the primary reason I think I'm not nonbinary
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I disagree! I think the same labels can be useful to some people, to help them describe themselves, without it needing to be prescriptive.
“Spicy” is a useful label that differs between individuals and cultures, as the most simple example
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I think the differences are likely in your views about where the boundaries of genders lie, as well as your preferences (and circumstances) relating to the act of self-identification.
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There are a lot of dimensions of gender nonconformity. There's a lack of adherence to stereotypes, then there's discomfort with being a member of a gender, and there's simply not conceiving yourself as a member of a gender.
There's also differences in intensity.
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It can also be that one values labelling themselves to be honest (maybe they’re just hyper aware of gender) to themselves where they fall on the spectrum. That’s if this person doesn’t announce their gender identity unless someone explicitly asks.
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Probably because people that are NB experience bodily dysphoria. I am a female and often resent that / identify more with my male friends and peers; the difference b/n me and my NB friends is that I’m comfortable in my F body and being ok with being labeled as such.
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