I think I would really like to have kids, except most ppl with kids seem to have an unhappier life, no free time, much higher stress, and a worse relationship with their partner. That's a scary thing to willingly enter into.
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What's the solution here? Fleet of nannies?
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re: many of the comments, I'm more concerned for me specifically compared to most people. I'm pretty aneurotypical, I have an extreme aversion to mundane tasks to the point that my life has suffered from it, I'm highly novelty optimizing, i have sensory issues and kids make noise
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like I think maybe I've cooked a meal twice in my life? Because making food is an agonizing experience. Probably if I have kids they will need food, though!
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I've cooked for my kid (age almost 5) literally 1000X more than I ever cooked for myself in close to 39 years.
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the thought I will need to start cooking for a child fills me with dread, like it significantly updates me towards not having kids
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do you want to enjoy, or at least tolerate, the experience of cooking? or do you view this as an immutable property of yourself
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I think it's hard to disentangle from the massive external pressure to cook
Then absolutely do not have children because this is probably one of the simplest aspects of it lol. Talk to your therapist about it, I talk to mine about my atypical limitations that prevent me from living a life I want to live
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