I think I would really like to have kids, except most ppl with kids seem to have an unhappier life, no free time, much higher stress, and a worse relationship with their partner. That's a scary thing to willingly enter into.
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The right answer is a multi generational community with lots of kids and grandparents to rotate and share the load
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money -- enough to buy back time via meal plans, no job, and nannies if desired
We're in this scenario now (minus money + no job), def higher stress and less time, but still spending time w/ friends and loving parenthood
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As ortho and lots of others have said, au pairs! I grew up w them until I was ~12 and my parents seem/seemed much happier than my peers, and my adult relationship w them today is way better than most peers' as well.
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Living with / near friends who also have kids as a pseudo family
Au pairs / nannies if you can't have that
1 kid requires the attention of atleast 2 adults, but it scales really well.
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the answer is not assuming that “happiness” is the pinnacle of human experience
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