I think I would really like to have kids, except most ppl with kids seem to have an unhappier life, no free time, much higher stress, and a worse relationship with their partner. That's a scary thing to willingly enter into.
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What's the solution here? Fleet of nannies?
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re: many of the comments, I'm more concerned for me specifically compared to most people. I'm pretty aneurotypical, I have an extreme aversion to mundane tasks to the point that my life has suffered from it, I'm highly novelty optimizing, i have sensory issues and kids make noise
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like I think maybe I've cooked a meal twice in my life? Because making food is an agonizing experience. Probably if I have kids they will need food, though!
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I have similar traits but I have a much easier time overcoming them when it's for someone else, especially someone who can't do those things for themselves. What's your pet-rearing history?
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The best novelty is the inner strength that comes from not acting like a child and chasing pretties, but sitting down and sitting with your thoughts and chopping the wood and carrying water. It’s sad how poorly many rationalists regard discipline.
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I think it's worth emphasizing that the question is not about kids in general but about your kids. Your own kids will automatically be trained to deal with your quirks, whatever those may be. That's been my experience at least - YMMV
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I'm also sensitive to sounds. This can be a problem because many people seem to buy kids toys that make noise, so even though I don't they still have loud toys. But the batteries are removable.
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Don't have kids then. It's a lot of repeating yourself and doing mundane tasks because those tasks aren't mundane to children who are experiencing the world for the first time.
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I think ideally you'd want 1 person around to help with the kids at all times that isn't you and daily housekeeping (shopping, cleaning, cooking, laundry). All of this could be your co-parent, or this could be ~2 nannies and a housekeeper, or something in between.
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