I think I would really like to have kids, except most ppl with kids seem to have an unhappier life, no free time, much higher stress, and a worse relationship with their partner. That's a scary thing to willingly enter into.
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re: many of the comments, I'm more concerned for me specifically compared to most people. I'm pretty aneurotypical, I have an extreme aversion to mundane tasks to the point that my life has suffered from it, I'm highly novelty optimizing, i have sensory issues and kids make noise
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like I think maybe I've cooked a meal twice in my life? Because making food is an agonizing experience. Probably if I have kids they will need food, though!
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uh I think I have some generic unspecified baby fever which I suspect is the classic biological clock thing. also making more mes seems cool, I'm a pretty happy person. And watching a kid grow seems nice and fulfilling.
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The right answer is a multi generational community with lots of kids and grandparents to rotate and share the load
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's Selfish Reasons to Have Kids is excellent reading. In short, yes people are less happy for a few years — but then they're much happier for much longer
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