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I asked ~14,000 people if they'd cheated in their relationship, and if their partner had cheated. Here's a graph of (straight) relationships over time, showing the gap between people's actual cheating rates and the average guess of if their partner has cheated. 1/

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I also asked ppl, "assuming your partner was totally chill with it, how much would you be interested in having romantic/sexual experiences with people besides your partner?" And then I asked them how much they thought their *partner* would be interested. Again, we see a gap! 2/

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A few more fun graphs: The full post, with more graphs, on my blog here: aella.substack.com/p/how-relation

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@niceforwwhhaatt

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Smth is off with these 2 or I am so dumb? 👀

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not dumb, I prob flipped the sign, will fix when I get home

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Nice to see the data track for partners. It might be off, but it shouldn't be by a lot

uɐᴉʌ∀ ʇɹǝʌuI

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Wait, people who have together for 3 months or less have *typically* had sex together ~80 times in the past six months? Which should be the last three months, obvs, which means they’ve had sex almost every day in that time. Are most people really that horny???

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“IGNORANCE is STRENGTH!” (1984)

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I love your research. Curious about how you may speculate that the covid pandemic influenced relationships and sexuality? Could part of the downward skew be related to the psychological effects?

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What is happening there after 7-9 years?

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Interesting second one, on the frequency. Do you have the data with a median value instead of an average ? Is it similar ?

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These are great graphs

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Is there a reason you don't have your the code on github (and use pastebin instead)?

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Plots like “Time until marriage” are best plotted as CDFs. Great data!