I asked ~14,000 people if they'd cheated in their relationship, and if their partner had cheated. Here's a graph of (straight) relationships over time, showing the gap between people's actual cheating rates and the average guess of if their partner has cheated. 1/
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I also asked ppl, "assuming your partner was totally chill with it, how much would you be interested in having romantic/sexual experiences with people besides your partner?"
And then I asked them how much they thought their *partner* would be interested. Again, we see a gap! 2/
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A few more fun graphs:
The full post, with more graphs, on my blog here: aella.substack.com/p/how-relation
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One data representation suggestion: you may want to compress the x-axis near the start and inflate it towards the end to correspond with the different time ranges (6 mo at start vs 4 years at end) represented
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I find it very surprising that people are MORE likely to cheat the longer the relationship is.
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WIIIILD! Esp the reality v expectation of female cheating in max LTR. Men can't imagine it happening while women are getting fed up and getting busy. Can't be a coincidence those happen at the same time.
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You know I am surprised cheating goes up over time. If you cheat on someone you been seeing a few months that's way more forgivable than doing that to someone you been with for years .
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