has a therapist ever said something so wack to you that it gave you the ick and you had to fire them
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In recovering from my eating disorder as a teenager, I remember telling her if I was thinner, maybe more people would like me and she said yeah maybe.
Ma’am?! How about my weight doesn’t affect my worth?! how dangerous are you
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wait but isn't this just straight up true? I was under the impression that one of the biggest things ppl who lose weight report is that people treated them better after they got slim
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I'm generalizing a bit here, but generally therapists need to be able to elicit or perceive their clients' emotional needs and prioritize responding to those rather than the literal interpretation of what the client is saying. 1/
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(should have started with this: I am not a therapist; this is all just my personal understanding!) In this case it sounds like what was needed was an affirmation of that person's worth, and perhaps exploring ways to reinforce that that don't require them changing their body... 2/
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...rather than responding directly to the literal statement. 3/3
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I mean she probably should have said more things to address other emotional assumptions behind it but it also seems good to not lie to people? Like "yeah people will like you more, but maybe we should explore your relationship to wanting people to like you" or something
You mean the therapist should have done her actual job instead of just affirming the disordered thoughts of an ill child??
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