has a therapist ever said something so wack to you that it gave you the ick and you had to fire them
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In recovering from my eating disorder as a teenager, I remember telling her if I was thinner, maybe more people would like me and she said yeah maybe.
Ma’am?! How about my weight doesn’t affect my worth?! how dangerous are you
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wait but isn't this just straight up true? I was under the impression that one of the biggest things ppl who lose weight report is that people treated them better after they got slim
I'm generalizing a bit here, but generally therapists need to be able to elicit or perceive their clients' emotional needs and prioritize responding to those rather than the literal interpretation of what the client is saying. 1/
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Might be true, but do you really think that the first thing teenager with ed should hear is "You maybe be treated better if you were skinner" People might as well like her more if she is is, you know ALIVE
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It is absolutely true. A therapists job isn't to lie to you and make you believe your own delusions. It's to give you tools to handle the reality of the world around you.
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The therapist never said her weight affects her worth, either, just that more people will like her.
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It might be true but it seems like In this scenario you want to train the patient for it to not be true so they can heal and stuff. Telling them weigjt doesn't impact worth, though may be partly a lie, is less important than recovering
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You’re making an argument for why you shouldn’t say it to someone recovering from an eating disorder…the idea that being thinner will make them more likeable.
Better point would be to point out why they have the need to be liked that badly. Not feed into it (pun intended)
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Yeah, this could be helpful if you follow it up with “Yeah more people could like you…but would that be worth trashing your body to be skinny?” There’s a lot of things we could do “to be liked” that aren’t worth it at all
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It isn't. People may be 'nice' but that doesn't mean they actually like you. A happy fat person who is comfortable in their skin and fun to be around is a whole lot more likely to attract real friends than an anemic diet-obsessed skinny byotch who criticizes herself constantly.
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I hope it was in the context of "yes, people who are thin are treated better by society, and it makes them feel worse, as conditional love usually does" or some such.
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Many people treat you differently when you’re thin, -and- your worth is not defined by your weight. Because fatphobia.
I started putting on weight at about 10. When I was 20-21, I lost weight (in both healthy and unhealthy ways). I was shocked how differently people treated me.
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