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My mom *loved* the trad life; she was a homeschooling housewife, dutifully caring for her children Unfortunately, her children did *not* love the trad life, and this resulted in a lot of upheaval I wonder how many neo-trad marriages today will produce children who hate it

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This basically poses the question "What if children want to do things differently than their parents," which...

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I think trad parents expect their kids to be trad in a way that other subculture parents don't expect their kids to follow; as in most poly ppl I know don't expect their kids to be poly/super progressive in lifestyle

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Yes. Many poly folks, if their daughter knew at 16 that they wanted the same thing, might be concerned. Most trad folks, if their daughter said she wanted to be trad, would take it as proof they were good parents.

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Doesn't this fundamentally just come down to one group not understanding the difference between "wrong" and "different" due to absence blindness? Which people who deviated from the norm inherently learned, while others may never have had the chance since they fit the mold

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Many “progressives” absolutely expect their kids to be progressive. With a puritan, zealous ferocity

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yes, that is the core conception of tradition. I think the notion is that the wisdom, patterns etc.. may be disliked or even reviled but that cultural transfer remains critical and necessary regardless

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“These things are so important, we risk alienating our children, or incurring other stressors.”

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nothing would make me more trad than learning my parents were poly

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It doesn’t matter because they will find there way home after realizing that “freedom” means something completely different than they thought as young adults. Parents provide the road map to stability and hopefully, contentment

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