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i am very pro people getting wealthy, compassion for the wealthy, financially fortunate ppl in life have feelings that matter, etc., but every time i hear one of the ppl in my community having a successful parent/went to college i feel a tiny sting of ow, wish that had been me

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Dec 26, 2022

i don't actually wish i'd gone to college, but there's something about the family that's financially successful enough to be *able to send the kids to college* that hurts to know about. at that age i was laboring overtime in a factory and i think about that with sadness

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

i wonder how much more successful/advanced/cool i'd been if i'd started out with some money to begin with. learning about my friend's more-successful origins. i am genuinely happy for them! but its always a glimpse into the future that could-have-been, a part of me winces

12:50 AM · Dec 26, 2022

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Not obvious to me you would be.

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yeah but like... if i knew i was gonna inherit a house or a few hundred thousand from older relatives one day, my life would feel very different/much more relaxed/i'd be more able to focus on non-sexwork methods of making money

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It's extremely rare to be born into wealth. You've already won the hotness and smarts lottery, so why worry?

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idk, to my childhood brain 'wealthy' means your child goes to college, and that is not uncommon

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would you say that your friends with more-successful origins are more advanced/cool than you tho? apart from financially

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of all my friends, the ones with successful origins are more advanced/cool than the ones without, on average, tho this might be selection effects

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Same feeling about what if my parents hadn't been religious, and I'd been able to go to mathcamps. Or if they'd had food other than carbs in their house, my metabolism might not have ended up so wrecked? None of us on Earth are raised in a way that gives our potential a chance.

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I always have found that those who ground every level on their way up know what everything is worth in a fundamental way. If it comes easy it is rare to know what it cost.

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Your quest, if you want, could be to put your kids in that position

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was it not an option to take loans to go into college? I was in the same boat due to parents being stingy even tho they could afford it, but federal + state loans for 4 years made it possible (possible but not...fun to take on that debt)