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Aella
@Aella_Girl
fwiw i kinda think both are true; i have some model that women view highly promiscuous men very suspiciously/warily/on guard, but that if the man makes high-commitment promises to her she is much more likely to respond vs a low-promiscuity man
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@SpanishSorel
Suddenly social desirability bias does not exist, becomes 'cope'. If the revealed preferences were that women do not feel attracted to promiscuous men, why did you pick a study where such thing is self-reported, i.e., it's a stated preference and not a revealed preference? twitter.com/datepsych/stat…
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
as in, you want to tame a powerful wolf, but powerful wolves also might eat you; you might report strong wariness of wolves, but given the opportunity to tame you would leap at it. V common theme in romance novels; the sexy man can get all the girls but drops them for the heroine
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
one of the guys i'm dating rn is extremely high promiscuity, and he also has no shortage of girls both aware of the promiscuity and really ready to commit to a relationship if he so much as hinted at it
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
but i think the negativity towards promiscuous men is somewhat justified, and women well calibrated; if a man sleeps with 100 women, it's extremely unlikely *you* are the one he will commit to, and it makes sense to be highly wary and not want him close to your community
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Beezy
@BeezyManzell
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@Aella_Girl
Hmmm. The implication is the opposite is unjustified and poorly calibrated? I mean... we're replete with media (movies mostly) where it's like "of course the wild crazy fun chick didn't want to settle down, you need to let her be free"
Aki
@aki_thinker
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@Aella_Girl
The point is that when everything else seems good, many women will take a chance on a promiscuous man thus making it possible for promiscuous men to exist. Many fewer women will take a chance on an uninteresting dolt just because he promises her she’ll bee his only one.
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Neqyve
@neqyve
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@Aella_Girl
The thing is, they are intentionally misinterpreting the study itself. The study shows that men and women are equally as likely to not like promiscuous partners for long term relationship. While men are more likely to still like promiscuous partners for short term relationships.
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DiscordantlyDancing
@DiscordantDanse
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@Aella_Girl
Interestingly, this translates into a very genuinely felt, visceral disgust toward promiscuous men in me. I also prefer the dynamic of being higher in SMV than my partner (seemingly this is unusual for women). I'll somehow find ways to be turned off by high SMV/promiscuous men.
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