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Going for a run every morning is healthier than not, but also I would never insist everyone should go for a run every morning. Some ppl's lives just aren't structured for that, can't make it a priority, other things are important. This is kinda how I feel about monogamy

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Is polyamory (according to my definition of it aella.substack.com/p/the-polyamor) better? ...yes? but also there's a ton of 'better' things that just are too much effort for the payoff, you have to choose your battles, no shame. The real shame is in trying to force yourself to be 'better.'

12:20 AM · Dec 16, 2022

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Lots of ppl view poly as an ideal in the same way they might view running every morning as an ideal, and then pursue it because they *want to be the kind of person who does that* as opposed to it actually being suited for them. I think these have similar bad downstream effects

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mysticalos.com/fetwritings/po is my simplified take of it for people who ask so that they understand it, from my point of view anyways. It’s fluid though and has diff meanings to different people much as most things do.

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IMO poly doesnt make sense because the point of sex is to solidify pair bonding between a man and woman.

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Very good read!

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Define better, and also explain what objective measurement you are basing this statement on?

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It's not better, it's just different. There are pros and cons that are equally balanced between monogamy and polyamory. I've been mono and poly for over ten years each.

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