Going for a run every morning is healthier than not, but also I would never insist everyone should go for a run every morning. Some ppl's lives just aren't structured for that, can't make it a priority, other things are important. This is kinda how I feel about monogamy
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Is polyamory (according to my definition of it aella.substack.com/p/the-polyamor) better? ...yes? but also there's a ton of 'better' things that just are too much effort for the payoff, you have to choose your battles, no shame. The real shame is in trying to force yourself to be 'better.'
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Lots of ppl view poly as an ideal in the same way they might view running every morning as an ideal, and then pursue it because they *want to be the kind of person who does that* as opposed to it actually being suited for them. I think these have similar bad downstream effects
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Polyamory makes sense from the perspective of a woman, but for a man it’s downright impractical. Finding a gf is like a side gig, it’s exhausting and time consuming. Unfortunately most men can’t just stroll into a bar and have strangers flirting and fighting for our attention.
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also common misconception! finding a mate is roughly equally as hard for men as it is for women, it's just that the selection goes the opposite way. i'm poly but im not fucking everyone, because i don't *want to*
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What are your thoughts on the mormon and the Arabic model of one husband with numerous wives?
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Going for a run is a personal decision. If you agree with your partner that every day you both will go for a run that is more analogous to the comparison you’re presenting.
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Except going for a run doesn’t impose (or propose/expect) restrictions on other people
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What monogamy is: two people agreeing that they will be exclusively* mated to reach other for the purpose of forging a family, sharing intimacy, building physical & financial security - nurturing a companionship that will be strong enough to endure the trials of life and death.
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I would never insist but I think just about everyone would benefit from the structure and health benefits of a morning run
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Just don't put govt and societal restrictions on how consenting adults form and maintain relationships.
Let people decide what works best for them.
As long as one is honest with their partner/s, things can work out fine.
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