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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I have a lot of trouble being romantically interested in people in general, and this feels a little confusing. I feel like there hadn't been a lot of quality discussion on "lack of romantic interest"; it's either "lol lower ur standards" or "aromantic queer discourse"
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MinorMatryoshka
@MinorMatryoshka
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@Aella_Girl
I think the problem is less that we lack useful frameworks for talking about these issues, and more that culturally we've slide into a place where all the frameworks we traditionally use for finding mates have been devalued and replaced with terrible substitutes.
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Gerrit Coetzee
@dammitcoetzee
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@Aella_Girl
just looking for an emotionally compatible full-time best friend and business partner who is also physically attractive, has a communication style that makes sense, and shares similar enough values that parenting won't be too hard. maybe it's just a hard thing to do?
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Coleman Ridge
@ColemanRidge
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@Aella_Girl
I have no idea what your emotional make-up is like, but romantic love is a cultural construct transmitted by stories, poems, and songs, and if those don't move you, you are unlikely to be moved. This doesn't mean that you are incapable of love, only of that particular kind.
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Andrew Wilcox
@awwx
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@Aella_Girl
In his book Getting The Love You Want, Harville Hendrix describes his theory that we’re attracted to people who have personality traits similar to our parents (positive and negative), as a way of recreating the psychological environment in which we experienced
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Laurent Hotte
@LaurenthotteL
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@Aella_Girl
I feel like appreciating the moments you spend with other people in the present instead of thinking of the «potential» of that person usually makes for healthier relations stop looking for something and just nourish relations that makes you feel good
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