as a child of parents who really really should have divorced but didn't, i can't help but wonder how much of the increasing divorce rate is the visible lesser evil compared to the invisible greater evil of a soul-destroying marriage
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I don’t know but this is definitely worth talking about and the fact that it isn’t very much is telling. Visible vs invisible evil should be considered more in general
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True for kids until about age 16. There is wisdom in the old saw that you should stay together for the kids.
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I divorced my ex when my kids were ages 6-16. It was a choice between 2 evils: divorce, or living in a physically & emotionally abusive household (I'm talking sick stuff) & implicitly acquiescing in his abuse toward the kids. However, divorce is bad for kids, too.
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Everything we do is an example for our children. Including living with abuse and suffering we need not live with. Rather not show my children taking abuse is acceptable...
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Or maybe you could learn to get along. If two cannot get along within one house, how can anyone get along anywhere?
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You are right. Staying married is not enough; you must work hard to make the marriage a good one. Is damn hard but almost no worthier cause. Damn hard mainly because of one’s own ego usually.
