Wait, is submission in kink about outsourcing desire bc ur not sure you can want / lust / desire and it's allowed / will be met w/o u needing to be good or bad? Asking for a friend.
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my guess is that much (but not all) of the time it's deeply ingrained on a genetic or inherent level and most of our stories about it are rationalizations after the fact
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doesn't seem to be significantly correlated with any childhood experiences i asked about in my data
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tbh yeah. one man goes to the psychiatrist and says, look, I developed a mommy fetish because my mom was never in the house. another man goes and says, listen, I developed a mommy fetish because my mom was always in the house.
well, maybe you just have a mommy fetish, you know?
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That hypothesis is testable with twins - if it's true, twins separated at birth/early childhood should have identical fetishes. Not sure if there is any data on that, but might be worth looking for.
I personally doubt this is the case, since they can actually change in adulthood
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