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Aella
@Aella_Girl
i get intellectually that other ppl sometimes "do not want to talk about that right now" and i think my gut doesn't really grok this, like i always have a suspicion that they do in fact want to talk about it and are just doing a polite thing and secretly hoping i ask them more qs
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
i very rarely, if ever, "don't want to talk about this right now", i think? i think i feel usually pretty down to plunge my face into a bowl of horror at most times
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
i don't instinctively grasp that some things "shouldn't be talked about" in social settings, that some topics or concepts are off limits. i generally respect this if ppl make requests, i dont have to understand to honor boundaries, but it's not an automatic awareness for me
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
(er to clarify, "don't want to talk about this right now" in the sense of "wait i'm busy/focusing on this other thing give me a second" makes sense and I do this and is not the kind of thing im trying to refer to)
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Gunnar Zarncke
@Gunnar_Zarncke
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@Aella_Girl
Does this count: "I'm not in the mental frame/mood where I can handle the images and/or emotions that come up." Where this can be subconscious, i.e., there are aversive feelings/thoughts that come up when this is a risk.
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