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In general, by default, texts/online DMs you have with other people (NOT including texts of explicitly private or obviously sensitive information like e.g., medical diagnoses) are ___ . Like, would you show texts to friends?

private, wouldn't show
33%
semi-pvt, show to v few
57.2%
not-pvt, share w/ friends
9.8%

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7:36 PM · Nov 27, 2022

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Some mix of private and semi private. I dont mind sharing snippets of dms if something funny happened, without asking permission first. However, as a general rule I'd consider dms fully private

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@drethelin

Nov 27, 2022

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@Aella_Girl

I tend to view it as like conversation. If we text I think it's fine to show the text to someone else if I think it would be fine to say "Aella and I were talking and she said she's gonna be in town next week, you should make plans with us"

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Basically depends on the content, but lean towards private

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@DisasterAreaPP

Nov 27, 2022

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@Aella_Girl

i am not great at respecting the privacy of DMs 😅 I mean I just love to share too much 🥺 definitely a way I show myself to be a bit sociopathic. and like if anything I like sharing the most insane and NSFW stuff the most it's just so much fun 😖

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By default no, but that's because I doubt anyone cares about the conversations I have with people, not because I would have an ethical problem with it. As I see it, by sending me a DM, you implicitly consent to e.g. someone behind me seeing it by accident.

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The only texts or such I have are only with my friends anyways

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For people who answered not private - how is it you do talk privately with someone online?

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Semi private

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Confidential by default, with some case-by-case exceptions for a couple of messages occasionally.

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Depends on the context, mostly they should be private by default even if not sensitive. Unsolicited DMs, especially where someone is being a douche are perhaps more fair game. Guys being super creepy; **** pics unsolicited etc. are totally fair game to be outed publicly.