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I think most of my issues from my childhood stem from parents treating me like a thing they're supposed to make obey them as opposed to a real person with preferences that matter but like, this seems to be the societal default for all parenting, not just mine

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sure, some of what kids want will directly harm them and we should prevent it, like not letting them run into streets, but a lot of them is harm we've *made up* to justify our attempts mold their brains into what we think they should be.

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i vividly remember as a kid thinking that adults didn't seem to treat me like a person, like my experience and feelings didn't actually matter. i was terrified about growing up, cause i knew they all used to be kids once, but *they* forgot, so that meant i was going to forget too

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i remember being really young and trying to scream to my future self I AM REAL AND THIS MATTERS. I carefully preserved that memory as i aged, repeating it dutifully, reviewing the message with the respectful importance I'd initially imbued it with, as i passed it to my adult self

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for most of us, childhood is just adults smashing down your autonomy in so many unnecessary ways. i've always felt parenting reveals the core of someone, is when you get to see what people are like when they are granted absolute power over another human being

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(this is one reason why i feel uninterested in reconnecting with my dad; he might be acting nicer now, but i got to see who he was when he had power over me. it's made it starkly clear that any respect he affords me now is *only* because he can't control me)

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(did ur parents really get nicer as u aged or did they just start treating u better cause they no longer have absolute power?)

8:31 PM · Nov 2, 2022

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ngl i think im gonna be a pretty decent parent based on the sheer fact that i have spent a lot of time carefully making sure i didn't forget what it was like to be a kid

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@DoubleBogey1985

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People are flawed. Give him a break.

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one of these days im gonna do a comprehensive writeup of all the methodical psychological torture he did so i can drop that link any time someone's like 'why can't u just get along'

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Aella, I am truly sorry your childhood was so fucked up. It certainly has sculpted your outlook & opinions of society. Please try to understand that a large percentage of us weren't "squashed" as kids & had good, loving, supportive parents raising/teaching us.

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Ze, I'm happy your childhood was so lucky, but it's certainly sculpted your outlook and opinions of society. Please try to understand a decent percentage of us weren't "loved" as kids and had bad, controlling, parents raising/teaching us.

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Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

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Nah they're about the same as they ever were, i.e., pretty cool

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My dad is nicer, but it's because he's not good with kids. As I got older and could talk to him like an adult, he got less frustrated with me.

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Mine actually stayed nice. I think they did a pretty good job regarding autonomy. The strictest action they took that I recall was telling me what not to do *and why*

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Mine were consistently nice, but they are trained in childhood development. They were universally seen as amazing parents by my friends. I was fortunate to be raised by caring, thoughtful people who didn’t abuse their power.

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