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my guess is most men's ideal setup would involve a loyal primary partner/wife/babymamma who they live with and have daily sex with, and then he also goes out and has more casual sex with new women every now and then for novelty and validation. The women are all chill with this.

am man, this sounds good
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am man, this sounds bad
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not a man/results
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4:09 PM · Oct 23, 2022

Hywel Dda was my Grandpappy

@ch_fungus

Oct 23, 2022

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@Aella_Girl

Maybe would be cool for a while but would very quickly cause problems and get old. Monogamy is inherently better for most humans

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yes, monogamy, which never causes problems or gets old

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I like it on principle, but I have no idea whether I would actually do this/enjoy this in practice if given the option

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Been doing this for a decade or so. It can work if you've got good communication.

Josh Job

@joshjob42

Oct 23, 2022

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@Aella_Girl

I feel like my ideal would involve multiple fairly longer term/committed relationships & I’d mostly prefer my partners have other partners both for potential multi-partner funtime & because I’d ideally not be someone’s everything. Seems to add a layer of obligation over the ‘ship

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If you’re someone’s everything in this regard, I feel like there are in some ways larger consequences if someone breaks off the relationship, & this makes it less optional & maybe feels less like each partner’s time & love is a freely chosen award for being valuable to the other

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Great for one guy. That doesn't work for a society.

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Something to consider: men fully emotionally mature at 43. While it might sound like an ideal setup, would it outside the bro culture? What about among emotionally mature people? Personally, it's nihilistic and not fulfilling at all.

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Intriguing thought experiment: ideal set-up is when sex is no longer interesting. Then, we don’t have to strategize ways to “keep things interesting”.

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I don’t think that whether something is most people’s ideal setup correlates at all to best or optimal. Most peoples ideal setup would likely not include study, work, exercise, curbing appetites, etc. You can’t build a functional / fulfilled society on perceived ideal setup.