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Aella
@Aella_Girl
being well known in specific subcultures creates some weird dynamic when attending meetups or e.g. vibecamp cause like, you have a default shared context (if asymmetric) with most ppl, which is nice, but then like 5% of them also hate you. 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
it makes interacting with anyone new a little weird and scary, like it's rolling a dice - you're grabbing a drink and a stranger is standing there and do you smile and be friendly/warm, when there's a chance they think you're horrible person and have you blocked? 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
in these subcultures, everyone already has a relationship with you, while you don't have a relationship with them. You walk through a room of people you've never met who have opinions formed about you, and it's just... idk it's really intense. 3/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
at one event i went up to a stranger during some tea tasting and he said some beautiful things and it felt open and warm and touching to me, and i was really vulnerable, almost cried a few times, and then when i looked him up to follow him on twitter he had me blocked. 4/
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David Aron Levine
@davealevine
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@Aella_Girl
Sadly the difference between “online” and “IRL” behaviors and personas can be stark and jarring. Likely this “person” didn’t even make the connection because they aren’t the same person in both contexts. Makes it perhaps trickier but in a way it could be lighter…less permanent.
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David Aron Levine
@davealevine
Replying to
@Aella_Girl
Could be. That said “blocking” sometimes happens randomly for long forgotten reasons in such a way that his “online” persona isn’t as reflective of who he actually is. Perhaps the experience you had in person was more real and the online more transient or even old or mistaken.
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