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Aella
@Aella_Girl
being well known in specific subcultures creates some weird dynamic when attending meetups or e.g. vibecamp cause like, you have a default shared context (if asymmetric) with most ppl, which is nice, but then like 5% of them also hate you. 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
it makes interacting with anyone new a little weird and scary, like it's rolling a dice - you're grabbing a drink and a stranger is standing there and do you smile and be friendly/warm, when there's a chance they think you're horrible person and have you blocked? 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
in these subcultures, everyone already has a relationship with you, while you don't have a relationship with them. You walk through a room of people you've never met who have opinions formed about you, and it's just... idk it's really intense. 3/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
and stuff like that puts a thread of dark scary into every interaction, for me. like i have to actively remind myself to be more careful about what i say or how friendly i am, or else i might accidentally bare a bit of my heart to a person who secretly views me as an enemy 5/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
it's ok if ppl don't like me, i just wish they would like... wear a wristband so i know who to avoid. i feel like im walking through a field in a dark night, and all around me are friends and enemies hiding on the ground dressed in camo, but i'm upright and covered in glowsticks
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David Aron Levine
@davealevine
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@Aella_Girl
Sadly the difference between “online” and “IRL” behaviors and personas can be stark and jarring. Likely this “person” didn’t even make the connection because they aren’t the same person in both contexts. Makes it perhaps trickier but in a way it could be lighter…less permanent.
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NAT
@nat_sharpe_
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@Aella_Girl
I think I know who that was and it’s hard to imagine him hating anyone.. worst part of being blocked is not knowing why that said being in your position sounds terrifying
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David Cornelson (Mach9Poker)
@Mach9Poker
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@Aella_Girl
I have two main twitter accounts and I cultivate my timeline carefully on both. Because of algorithm insanity, sometimes a block is more because how your account fits into that algorithm and not about you specifically. He could legit be sincere and still limit his timeline.
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Yitz
@YitziLitt
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@Aella_Girl
Worth noting that some people (especially those not chronically online) don’t believe/are totally clueless that blocking people sends a social message and just use the function to curate their timeline. Idk if that was going on there, but might be worth giving benefit of doubt
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