Isn’t the stereotype & widely held belief in evo bio that males are more indiscriminate in who they sleep with? So why would women be more likely to consider certain people’s sleeping with them an accomplishment?
I agree. So many people don't have pleasure as one of their main motivators for sex. Also, so many people rate inexperience or even shame as a desirable thing, part of that accomplishment.
I see people like this as almost trying to be competitively worse at sex in a way.
The "Aella Problem" as a woman becomes more successful there will be fewer men that are more successful than her.
As women in general become more successful than men, the sea of unfuckable men grows.
I'm a bisexual guy who has casual sex with guys. I'd say the biggest problem I encounter is people not seeing their hookup as a full person. We're so conditioned by porn and instant-gratification apps that we think of our hookup as nothing but a glorified fleshlight.