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two people are married and both agree that they don't want the other person to sit in any chairs outside the home. standing only. one day one of them gets tired at work, and they sit in a chair. Ashamed, they lie to their partner about it, pretend it never happened. 1/

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It’s the betrayal of trust that causes the turmoil not “sitting in the chair”

Aella

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@scipio_arizona

if sitting in chairs doesn't cause turmoil then people should stop making agreements that would cause the breach of trust in the first place

4:46 PM · Sep 20, 2022

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I don’t think abandoning commitment, honesty, and trust is the way to go. But you do you

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People make agreements in relationships based on what they feel together. At this point in time, most people feel that when their partner sits in chairs, it brings up a lot of negative feelings. It would take a monumental society wide shift for this to change.

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I actually agree with this. If you don't feel like you can realistically hold to an agreement, then you should be upfront and not make it in the first place. But if you do make the agreement, betraying the trust is still bad Approach your partner and be honest first.

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Reminds me of the story of this old dude, who told a couple who were living in his garden to not eat any fruit from one of the trees. But Eva ate a bit, and the old dude went haywire.

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I don't accept that cheating doesn't cause turmoil by itself. I think sexual jealousy is a real thing for most people. Sitting in a chair does not cause that feeling, so the agreement is pointless, while a commitment to monogamy has a reason beyond "society says this is normal".

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