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Aella
@Aella_Girl
two people are married and both agree that they don't want the other person to sit in any chairs outside the home. standing only. one day one of them gets tired at work, and they sit in a chair. Ashamed, they lie to their partner about it, pretend it never happened. 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Is this bad? lying, a betrayal of their relationship? yeah definitely, but I don't really feel an emotional punch of horror here. idk, seems real unsurprising someone gave into tired legs at some point, the original agreement seemed super unrealistic to begin with. 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
this sort of sums up the way I feel when I see cheating portrayed in media - I don't feel horror, just like, well of course, what did u expect with such an unrealistic agreement? This emotionally disconnects me from a whole lot of plotlines in media.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I am not trying to argue here the chair analogy is actually the same thing as monogamy- chairs don't pose a pregnancy risk for example - I'm just trying to convey how mundane it strikes me. feels like I'm watching someone sit down in a chair and everyone gasps.
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Sam'el Hall
@DamnedEyez
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@Aella_Girl
Honestly, that argument doesn't even seem relatable in the slightest to monogamy...you're not going to collapse from exhaustion because you didn't have sex outside a relationship.
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Sam'el Hall
@DamnedEyez
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@Aella_Girl
which might point to the core issue you have/they have...seems like monogamists see that relationship a lot more special and exclusive. Seems a bit like the "owning a home" and "all land should be free" arguments as well.