I'm sure you have plenty of clear examples, but here's a stark example of reported vs. revealed preference in speed dating (though it's also largely about by our misperception of others).
Objectively measured intelligence did not yield a competitive advantage in speed dating, unlike perceived intelligence, but even that was largely a by-product of good looks. https://psyarxiv.com/ewvny/
seems weird to reduce "attraction" to "things people find appealing when talking to someone for a maximum of 8 minutes"-- "initial attraction" isnt all there is