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Bella Rudd
@BellaRudd1
interesting thread! ig i never rly got a curiosity differential b/w genders. dudes do tend to be more conversationally competitive tho? ig for me if we can both be curious about something external & explore it together thats enough? i don't have to be the focus of their inquiry?
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
i have trouble empathizing with lack of curiosity like i can empathize with other gendered differences. I think i hold maybe a little bitterness at how often i feel unmet/unmatched/empty in that way.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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my poll here shows a majority of ppl saying yes, but like... roughly 4/5ths of women saying yes and 3/5ths of men saying yes? i suspect if i could get a more specific question the gap would widen
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
What's your gender? || When in relationships, do you tend to have an active, ongoing curiosity about your partner's thoughts and emotional states, to the degree that you ask them a lot of questions - clarifications and hypotheticals, that do a lot of digging/exploring/probing?
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Bella Rudd
@BellaRudd1
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hmm i mean, your poll results are often delightfully surprising! to me tho it seems strange that [what i assume to be] your friend group & subcultural associations would prove insufficiently curious to guess, socialization? like, perceived 'neediness' being anathema to dudes?
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Morgan Holt
@morgan__holt
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I think it’s got something to do with men not wanting to overstep the boundaries of invading someone else’s privacy (and/or reveal their vulnerabilities of not knowing something.). So maybe the question could be along the lines of “how much do you know about your friends”