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Aella
@Aella_Girl
i am pretty down with a lot of the stereotypical ways men can't 'satisfy' women; not as emotionally in tune, wants higher novelty in mate choice, bad at picking up underwear or whatever. I've come to terms with all that, celebrate differences! except for one thing
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@Aella_Girl
which is lower curiosity, or something related? I was talking to some of my friends, complaining how hard it was to find a partner who seemed actively, genuinely curious about me, and realized this seems to be a really gendered thing.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
like, when im in relationships i love asking careful questions, cause im super curious about my partner, i want to know about them, how their mind works, how they feel about the world. but its rare to find someone who wants to do it to me
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@Aella_Girl
and i think this is probably a gendered thing and it makes me feel sad. i can accept a dude who never cries or wants to bang a new woman every week, but it feels really painful to just 'accept' low curiosity from a man. it feels like not being loved
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@Aella_Girl
i have trouble empathizing with lack of curiosity like i can empathize with other gendered differences. I think i hold maybe a little bitterness at how often i feel unmet/unmatched/empty in that way.
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@materilfo
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@Aella_Girl
Women tend to talk more, a lot more, than the typical man, and they love talking about themselves, their thoughts, worries, etc. So many men probably have learned through experience that they don't need to, because the women will just tell them everything if they listen.
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@materilfo
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@Aella_Girl
Also sorry to bring out the "have you tried communicating" trope, but have you tried asking dates and partners to do this explicitly?
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