i love that people make date-me docs, they are cool and indicate good things about someone
but ngl most of the actual content inside the date-me docs is *terrible*, at least to my critical ladyeye 1/
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mostly i feel they do a bad job modeling the reader, because it's hard to write about yourself in a way where you can reign in your joy in your own identity. ppl take date-me docs as a "everything I find important about me, an excuse to talk about myself and it feels good" doc
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no; in general, strangers are *way* less interested in you than you are interested in you. the job of your doc is not a platform for you to introspect about who you are in relationship to dating, the job is to concisely convey potential compatibility. My doc is only 500 words!
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Your doc should be *about the reader* - what are things other people reading might value strongly that you can or cannot provide? Tell me less about what you are and more about what you tend to make others feel, how you tend to fail them.
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It should be sharp and efficient, and focus clearly on the things that will divide people from compatible to incompatible. Loving hiking isn't going to be the determinator here - what's the weirdest, most controversial part about yourself?
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What are the things you want in another person that are hardest to find, least likely to be fulfilled? Lead with that. If you're at the point where you're making a dating doc, then you probably are niche or have niche preferences, and this is the #1 important thing
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and lastly, the structure and presentation of the information itself should be creative/engaging/uniquely you. Cliche advice, but show, don't tell. Open the doc with a joke, or draw the doc in crayon; have a distinct voice, some implication that you are bursting with aliveness
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and to reiterate, KEEP IT SHORT. Punch her with the facts and then LEAVE. in classic seduction terms, leave her wanting more; dont try to desperately pack her attention into you like baseballs into a sock. leave out the details, they matter less than you think.
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For any dudes reading this, here's some presentation format inspo (my tinder profile from when I was still in the dating game, you could of course easily adapt it to a dating doc)
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Since some people asked:
It was a PowerPoint style presentation, "5 reasons you should match this lad"
It's in Portuguese, so I guess y'all will have to take my word for it, but in my biased op, it's pretty funny. And people seemed to agree :p
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" the job is to concisely convey potential compatibility"
their job is to give you one overwhelmingly compelling reason to invest half an hour of one on one with me
why i am that one of a kind that you will benefit from knowing
it's not about compatibility but authenticity