Treating someone with compassion and dignity is not the same thing as believing what they believe, and philosophies that equate these two are real toxic.
This is Gene Wolfe's executioner's guild thing. And others before. Women like consistency. If Heaven turns out to be a nice supper club, and I make it in somehow, if, after a life of reviving the old dark ways, you came through the doors nude and unbowed, I'd be delighted.