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the root cause of basically all dating problems is people thinking about themselves, from the inside out: how dating feels for them, what they want, how it fits their story, how they were hurt, how they need to change and improve to get dates, what scares them, etc.
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to date well you need to be thinking about the actual people you will be dating. what do they want? where are they? what are they worried about? what you'll do together? what are their options? why are they attracted to you?
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i mean i have like, demographic data on this question, including spreadsheets for ppl ive personally boned, but it feels weird to think about it with this frame. I don't think i've ever experienced being into someone who's not into me before.