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Aella
@Aella_Girl
restating my stance towards trans issues: I strongly support ppls right to transition, gender dysphoria is a real thing, use preferred pronouns! Be kind! Also don't believe most ppl have ability to make their brain parse ppl as their preferred gender and it's cruel to demand this
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
literally that's it. I am down to, in almost all circumstances, treat trans ppl as they want to be treated. Bathroom use, inclusion in their preferred gender groups, insurance covering transitioning cost, absolutely yes. I just draw the line at ownership over other ppls minds
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
This is generally what gets me labeled a 'transphobe' in some of the more radical trans communities. It's not enough that I support trans stuff in every practical way - the fact that I talk about the automatic perception of gender as beyond our control is the unacceptable thing.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
if i had a button i could press that would make my brain automatically parse you as the gender you wanted to be parsed as, I would press it. But I don't have that power and I am a lil freaked at the pressure (thousands of ppl calling me transphobe!) to pretend I do
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jorge
@skinny_eggus
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@Aella_Girl
every trans person I’ve met has been very forgiving of people who misgender them. it’s more about showing that you respect them I think. maybe there’d be less pressure to not mess up on guessing gender identity if we allow ourselves to make mistakes and apologized for them.
Katerina A. Beckett
@katerinabucket
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@Aella_Girl
i really can't think of a single trans person i've met (and i've met lots) who cares about the internal perceptions of anyone other than, like, close family and friends, and in those cases it's obviously a gradual process
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🔸MrFadedGlory🔸
@MrFadedGlory
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@Aella_Girl
I'm unsure of what you're getting at here? Dos this mean that if a Trans person asked you to use pronouns aligning with their gender identification, but YOU don't see them the way, you feel you shouldn't have to use the preferred pronouns?
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