restating my stance towards trans issues: I strongly support ppls right to transition, gender dysphoria is a real thing, use preferred pronouns! Be kind!
Also don't believe most ppl have ability to make their brain parse ppl as their preferred gender and it's cruel to demand this
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literally that's it. I am down to, in almost all circumstances, treat trans ppl as they want to be treated. Bathroom use, inclusion in their preferred gender groups, insurance covering transitioning cost, absolutely yes.
I just draw the line at ownership over other ppls minds
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This is generally what gets me labeled a 'transphobe' in some of the more radical trans communities. It's not enough that I support trans stuff in every practical way - the fact that I talk about the automatic perception of gender as beyond our control is the unacceptable thing.
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if i had a button i could press that would make my brain automatically parse you as the gender you wanted to be parsed as, I would press it. But I don't have that power and I am a lil freaked at the pressure (thousands of ppl calling me transphobe!) to pretend I do
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Good post. While it took me a bit of adjusting I have started using gender neutral terms in an event I don’t know a persons pronouns.
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You make a very valid point and I think some trans people alienate those trying to accept them. I had a transgendered woman once come into the hotel. Her ID she handed me still had her dead name on it, so identified her with that. She tore my into me.
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Errr. To be fair, trans issues only impact a tiny, tiny minority of people. The number of gay men is tiny. The number of trans folks is small in comparison. In a world where all sane people agree that trans folks should be allowed to live as they please, why we talking about this
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Ive followed Aella for years and I have never felt or read anything that made me feel she is transphobic, dishonest, or close minded. She appears to honestly ask questions that sometimes are far out there but she has her reasons
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