Pretty sure I'd say that all the folks I've known and met that this poll may concern cared only about the label (if any) they chose/choose to give themselves.
So I feel as though this poll suffers from a colloquialism, mainly that people internalize "beholder" to be "myself, not:
> be·hold·er
> /biˈhōldər/
> noun
> a person who sees or observes someone or something.
I first read this as:
"Gender is how I see it."
The difference being:
"Gender is how I see it." -> gender depends on my subjective views, can be very masculine but still a transwoman
"Gender is how others see you." -> gender is based on the collective views of others