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One trait that I find really sexy in a man is a real specific flavor of 'doesn't give a shit what others think' - not in an antisocial way, but like, clear principles and bravery/risk taking, and some level of power/independence that lets them have the independence to survive.

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I think this is pretty baked in. The most pro-social and independent people I know were that way at 4yo too and don’t really know what it would feel like to be super worried but people think of you bc they’ve never felt it

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(fwiw, I think of myself as pretty independent and socially deviant, but I was NOT like this as a young child)

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Werent you internally socially deviant but limited by family reasons though? That seems different

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Not as a young child! Like, pre-puberty, my mom has notes in her diary about how I was unusually sensitive to social criticism and was extremely careful/nervous/embarrassed. One time I had a breakdown when I was supposed to hit a pinata because other people were looking at me.

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oh neat, maybe I’m wrong

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same i think?

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As a child I had a commitment to doing what I thought 'right' which aligned with my religious upbringing As I got older I found my commitment to doing what I thought 'right' did not change. What changed was my assessment of what is right v wrong Do you think you are similar?

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Similar experience here. I was an awkward sheep as a child/teen. At 27 I went on a 6 month backpacking trip through numerous relatively poor countries which viscerally demonstrated there are diverse ways to “live” and that I should choose my own path.