Maybe sample bias?
Trans people who don’t care how closely you conform to their specific preferences are not likely to aggressively demand your attention.
Yeah this is true, but there's not a corresponding aggressive section of many other subsets. Or, I guess there is - some cis people get mad at me for including 'cis' as an option, but it's much less common given the % of cis people there are.
i think it’s true that trans people are disproportionately likely to be aggressively sticklerish about language but complaining about that as if it’s a property of trans people as a whole is gonna make many reasonable trans people feel attacked
I mean, I know the phenom you’re describing is real. It’s a combo of the more general “mad about my thing” and the lib culture specific “as a member of Group I speak for Group.”