Being careful about the info you give cause it might be weaponized by bad people feels like a good short-term strategy, but bad long-term one. I firmly believe that consistent honesty, even when it seems bad people might take advantage, is the best long-term strategy. 1/
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Bad people who weaponize things *expect* you to be engaging in war with them - withholding info out of fear it might reinforce their opinions. They expect that you are optimizing for ideology war and are not interested in truth, and this ultimately *supports* them.
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Being honest about things that might appear to support the side you disagree with is an act of alliance and trust - "I am not going to hide a vulnerability". In order to get people to trust your commitment to truth, you must first be committed to truth!
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I feel weird and bad when people are like "you know making that argument is something that the Bad Side use to weaponize hatred." And like, maybe, but if I hide true things because of that, I just become part of the problem, I'm burning the landscape of trust in each other.
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I think people underestimate the way in which you approach this kind of thing shapes the kind of relationships you have. People end up opting out of your community if they don’t like this approach but in the long term you end up with a community that is more open and honest.
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A assume this is in the context of persuasive speaking and not in the context of privacy right?
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Agree with you wholeheartedly on principle, but speaking practically/from personal experience, it seems like if you dont play the short game with other people who play the short game, you just lose before you ever get to play the long game. There IS no long game. I hope I'm wrong
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I often feel that the responsibility we as “thinkers”/“the eyes, ears, and hands of the universe” have to ideas and posterity is far greater than the actions that a few choose to do in response. it may not be the right thing to say but our short term circumstances seem trivial
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I always operate this way, though after years on reddit, I had to delete my comment history as a practical matter. It was too often that in a disagreement, someone would get frustrated and doxx me in a search for unrelated personal attacks. Just not very productive.
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There is such thing as 'unbeautiful truth' as opposed to the poem Ode to a Grecian Urn. It's when people use sharing someone else's truth to attack in public (esp in a relationship) to justify humiliation & abuse, manipulation. Having no secrets is the best defence