"It's MUCH more horrible to lose than it is fun to win."
My bf on chess (& he plays obsessively). I feel the same way about tango. It's much more horrible to not get any dances than just not to go. 1/
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(This is why I've largely stopped dancing tango, sadly. I have aged out of being a desirable partner in this woman-heavy milieu & I'm just not getting people to dance with me any more.) How many things are like this, I wonder? Is this loss aversion normal or unjustified? 2/
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Huh, I find I'm usually the person asking most people to dance at social dance events, do your tango events have a norm where followers don't ask?
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The received etiquette is that neither party asks verbally: you make eye contact and there is a specific mime. But in London, many people ask & women can definitely ask too. I have & do. But that's doesn't help matters, since the guys just say no.
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whooah guys say no? in dance cultures i've been in you're def allowed to say no, but in practice almost everybody says yes unless they're sweating hard from a previous song or in the middle of something else or they already promised the song to another person
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Absolutely. In tango people are very selective about who they dance with. There are many reasons for this: you dance in a very close embrace & also we dance in 12-minute sets.
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